If you or a loved one has experienced sexual, physical, or psychological sibling aggression or abuse, you may be looking for understanding, validation, and help.
"Families and society dismiss it, as if being physically hurt by a sibling hurts less somehow than being hurt by somebody else. No, to me, it hurts more than if it was a stranger or some kid at school. I had no expectation of love or protection from them, but I did from my sibling, and I also couldn't get away from my sibling."
- Ellen, survivor of sibling abuse
Those who have harmed or been harmed by a sibling often experience a range of emotions and psychological effects, including shame, loss of trust, isolation, or grief. These feelings can be particularly intense and long-lasting.
It’s normal to have conflicting feelings toward a sibling and the aggression or abuse itself. This can be confusing and distressing, even in adulthood. Many survivors feel responsible for the abuse, especially if they were close in age to their sibling or if they didn't defend themselves or resist sexual advances.
While these feelings and experiences are common, not every sibling experiences them the same way. It is possible to work through these challenges and find healing with proper support and treatment. Learn More
In addition to therapy, people with lived experience of sibling aggression or abuse often find validation and understanding by learning more about the topic and joining peer support groups. You can also share your story anonymously with SAARA.
Learn More
What Would Dr. Meyers Do?
"A Sibling Abuse Resource for Support, Advocacy, and Change," Episode 65, January 2024
Psychology Today
"The Long-Term Impact of Sibling Aggression on Adults," November 2023
The Conversation
"Sibling Aggression and Abuse Go Beyond Rivalry – Bullying Within a Family Can Have Lifelong Repercussions," March 2023
