Positive Sibling Relationships

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Positive sibling relationships are associated with better mental, physical, and relationship health across the lifespan, including less depression and relationship violence. Warm and supportive sibling relationships in childhood often continue in adulthood and are linked to improved well-being, even in later life.

The importance of siblings is often overlooked, but this relationship has unique features that make it salient for child development and well-being.

  • Everyday Contact: The extensive time siblings spend together creates a shared history and familiarity not often experienced in other relationships. Time together can create a strong bond.
  • Emotional Intensity: Siblings know each other’s quirks, worries, and joys better than most other people. This creates the potential for significant highs and lows in the relationship.
  • Involuntary Relationship: We don’t get to choose our siblings. This can create an enduring, lifelong bond, but also makes it harder to avoid a difficult or harmful sibling relationship.

Sibling relationships don’t have to include rivalry, aggression, or abuse. There are many things parents and families can do to encourage positive sibling bonds at any age, starting in early childhood.

Learn More about Positive Sibling Relationships

Partial screenshot of first page of "Classification of Sibling Dynamics" handout
Sibling Dynamics: Classification and Practice Recommendations
October 28, 2025
SAARA provides a classification of sibling dynamics with definitions of rivalry, constructive conflict, destructive conflict, and abuse, as well as practice recommendations to address each type of sibling dynamic to promote positive sibling relationships
Promoting Positive Sibling Relationships: Practical Tips for Caregivers
Promoting Positive Sibling Relationships: Practical Tips for Caregivers
June 26, 2024
This handout includes ten practical tips for parents and caregivers to promote positive sibling relationships. Available in English and Spanish.
An opportunity to address sibling aggression
An Opportunity to Address the Most Common Form of Family Violence: Sibling Aggression
January 26, 2024
Given the prevalence and impacts of sibling aggression, parenting education is needed. Yet evidence-based parent education programs generally do not address it. This represents an opportunity for parenting education. We propose how such information could be infused into parent education programming.
Resources for professionals and parents to improve sibling relationships
Resources for Professionals and Parents to Improve Sibling Relationships
May 6, 2023
SAARA Bulletin #3. The goal of this bulletin is to provide guidance for parents and professionals on preventing and responding to sibling aggression and abuse and improving sibling relationships.
recommendations for parents managing sibling conflict
Recommendations for Parents on Managing Sibling Conflict and Aggression
April 22, 2023
SAARA Bulletin #2. When children are young, parents can play an important role in managing sibling conflict while helping their children gain social and cognitive abilities. By using the mediation technique explained in this bulletin, parents help children become better able to resolve conflicts with their brothers and sisters.
First Page of "Inter-Parental Conflict and Sibling Warmth during Adolescence: Associations with Female Depression in Emerging Adulthood"
Inter-parental conflict and sibling warmth during adolescence: Associations with female depression in emerging adulthood
February 1, 2013
This study examined whether female emerging adults' recalled sibling warmth moderated the relationship between exposure to inter-parental conflict in adolescence and their current depression.
First page of "The relative contributions of parents and siblings to child and adolescent development"
The relative contributions of parents and siblings to child and adolescent development
December 3, 2009
We explore how siblings' and parents' roles, relationships, and activities are intertwined in everyday life, providing unique and combined contributions to development.
First page of "Adolescent siblings' daily discussions: Connections to perceived academic, athletic, and peer Competency"
Adolescent siblings' daily discussions: Connections to perceived academic, athletic, and peer competency
March 5, 2007
Adolescent siblings from 21 families completed a daily diary on each of 7 days. The frequency and content of siblings' conversations are described and the relationship between the content of siblings' discussion and their perceived academic, athletic, and peer competency is explored.
First page of "Advice about life plans from mothers, fathers, and siblings in always-married and divorced families during late adolescence"
Advice about life plans from mothers, fathers, and siblings in always-married and divorced families during late adolescence
December 1, 2001
This publication examines the frequency of advice about life plans that older adolescents in always-married and divorced families received from mothers, fathers, and siblings.
First page of "Conditions of sibling support in adolescence"
Conditions of sibling support in adolescence
January 1, 2001
This study examined the nature and extent of adolescent siblings' supportive roles and the conditions under which siblings provide support to one another about familial and nonfamilial issues.
First page of "When does parents’ differential treatment have negative implications for siblings?"
When does parents’ differential treatment have negative implications for siblings?
May 1, 2000
We compared the extent of parents’ differential treatment (PDT) and girls’ and boys’ perceptions of parents’ fairness in middle childhood and adolescence as a function of the gender constellation of the sibling dyad.