What constitutes Expressed consent?
Expressed consent to engage in sexual activity must be given by each partner. Expressed consent is mutual agreement, based on shared desire for specific sexual activities that is expressed verbally or nonverbally. Examples of expressed consent include, but are not limited to: (a) an ongoing verbal interaction, taken one step at a time, to engage in escalating sexual intimacy; (b) mutual awareness of possible unwanted consequences of sexual activities such as pregnancy and sexual transmitted diseases and taking precautions to avoid these consequences and (c) an ongoing recognition that consent to some sexual activities does not imply consent to other, different, or more intimate sexual activities.
Examples of nonconsensual sex include but are not limited to: threatening, forcing, manipulating, intimidating, blackmailing, drugging, and causing a person to become intoxicated as a substitute for expressed consent or engaging in unwelcome sexual activity with a sleeping or incapacitated person.
New Hampshire RSA 632-A:2 describes the circumstances where sexual activity is not considered consensual.
Although non-verbal cues are acceptable and may be your practice in receiving expressed consent, keep in mind that verbal expressed consent is less likely to be misinterpreted, and the safest, least ambiguous way to seek and receive expressed consent. Do not rely on gestures, facial expressions, or vague/non-specific verbal answers.
Wildcats are active bystanders
Bystander Intervention Resources
- Sexual Harassment & Rape Prevention Program (SHARPP) - Be an Active Bystander
- Prevention Innovations Research Center
Wildcats, when it feels safe, take action and safely help when they see a potentially harmful situation.
- Notice the situation: Be aware of your surroundings.
- Recognize it as a potential danger: Do you recognize that someone needs help?
- Feel responsible to act: See yourself as being part of the solution to help.
- Know what to do: Educate yourself on what to do.
- Intervene safely: Take action but be sure to keep yourself safe.
- Tell another person. Being with others is a good idea when a situation looks dangerous.
Get consent for sexual activity each and every time.
Form healthy and respectful relationships.
Volunteer to make UNH a better, safer, more inclusive community.
Support friends and community members that have been impacted by sexual violence and harassment
Hold others accountable for their inappropriate behaviors.
Students are encouraged to report incidents of sexual violence and harassment.
Helping someone in trouble
Ask if the impacted person is okay. Provide options and a listening ear.
- Ask if the person wants to leave. Make sure that the person gets home safely.
- Call the police (911) TTY users: 711 (Relay NH) or someone else in authority or yell for help.
- Call the SHARPP 24/7 Support Help Line: 603-862-SAFE (7233) for support and options.
Remember these tips when you are out...
Have a plan.
Talk with your friends about your plans before you go out. Do you plan to drink? Are you interested in hooking up? Where do you want to go? Having a clear plan ahead of time helps friends look after one another.
Go out together.
Go out as a group and come home as a group. Never separate and never leave your friends behind.
Watch out for others.
If you notice a friend’s relationship with a partner has become volatile or abusive, let them know that no one deserves that abuse. If you are unsure how to help a friend in an abusive relationship, use the privileged confidential support services available on campus through SHARPP, Psychological and Counseling Services, Health & Wellness, or UNH Chaplains Association.
Alcohol or drugs are often used as a tool for sexual assault. UNH policy and New Hampshire law forbid initiating sex with a person who is incapacitated by the use of alcohol or drugs.
USNH amorous relationship policy
USNH’s Amorous Relationship Policy provides guidelines to prevent conflicts of interest that can occur when two members of the UNH community whose institutional roles place them in an uneven power dynamic engaged in a consensual amorous relationship.
For the University System of New Hampshire (USNH), as at all institutions of higher learning, it is necessary to acknowledge and establish relationship boundaries in our living, learning and working environment, especially where there are existing hierarchies and power dynamics. This policy provides clarifications and guidelines to prevent conflicts of interest that can occur when members of the USNH community engage in amorous relationships, and especially those whose institutional roles place them in an uneven power dynamic.