We know there is a lot for you to discuss with your student before they begin their time here at UNH. With so much in transition, we hope this list will serve as a helpful launching point for an open dialogue between yourself and your student. Together, we can help best prepare your student for UNH life and help set them up for success!
As parents, families, and loved ones you're able to play a critical role in teaching your student about respect, boundaries, and consent. Whether that be through discussions related to bodily autonomy and recognizing/respecting other people's boundaries, or modeling everyday examples of consent.
- Learn more about consent, healthy relationships, and interpersonal violence (IPV). Familiarizing yourself with these topics is a great place to start before having a conversation with your student.
- Reminder: Consent is a mutual agreement between people for something to occur, it's asking someone's permission and receiving an affirmative answer. Consent shows up in our everyday lives (we're really doing this ALL of the time!) such as; when we ask someone to borrow something of theirs, or when we inquire about where someone wants to go for dinner. Consent in its truest form is intentional conversation/questions with others and mutual respect for other people's responses. This is also true when it comes to sex and relationships. Asking questions around someone's comfort level, likes/dislikes, and desires is imperative to ensuring consent. Accurately reading (and recognizing) another person's body language and non-verbals is another key ingredient to consent in intimate relationships. Accepting rejection and respecting the boundaries of others are additional components of effectively practicing consent. Check out our featured video for more information on consent.
- Visit these resources to learn more!
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- SHARPP's Goodreads Reading List
- I Ask How To Teach Consent Early
- What Parents Need to Know About Digital Consent
- Healthy Communications With Kids
- Parents of Young Children and Young Adults
- Going to College: What Families Need to Know About Sexual Assault and Safety on Campus
- Talking With Your Student About Campus Sexual Violence
- One Love- Relationships 101
- Share what you know (and/or what you learned) about relationships, consent, and campus IPV (sexual violence, relationship abuse, stalking). Discuss ways your student can engage in consensual and healthy relationships and recognize red flags if they occur.
- Discuss the relationship between alcohol use and sex. Spend time talking about how alcohol and other drugs can impact someone's ability to make safe choices, or to help friends. Help your student recognize the signs of intoxication and incapacitation (in both themselves and others).
- Emphasize that you are a resource for your student. Encourage them to check in with you throughout the academic year and help ensure they feel comfortable and safe doing so. Highlight the campus resources available to them.
- Encourage your student to find out how they can help in preventing sexual violence and relationship abuse on campus. Talk about ways they can be an active bystander for a roommate, friend, classmate, or stranger.
Photo Source: Conversations On Consent