Information for Parents / Family

When a student is charged with a Student Code violation it can be a challenging experience for both parent and student. We hope that parents will be supportive and assist students in navigating their way through the conduct process. We will do our best to work with parents to answer questions and make sure students are treated fairly and consistently. Below is some information for parents regarding the conduct system. If you have further questions, feel free to contact our office.

Tips to help your student avoid going through the conduct system.

One of the best ways to make sure a student has a positive UNH experience is to help them avoid going through the conduct system in the first place. Below are some ways parents can be proactive to help their students avoid having a conduct record.

  • Discuss the Student Code and make sure your student understands what the expectations are at UNH.
  • UNH does impose eviction as a sanction for several types of incidents. Discuss what could get someone evicted and how being evicted could impact your student’s college experience as well as the financial burden it could cause for your family.
  • Talk about ways for students to have fun without relying so much on the party scene. There is plenty to do in the Seacoast area as well as within a few hours of UNH.
  • Encourage students to get involved in student organizations or other opportunities. Typically getting involved is cheaper than partying every weekend. Plus it’s a great way for students to form long-lasting friendships based on more than partying.
  • Talk about the differences between living at home and living in a residence hall with several other people and how everyone needs to be respectful of each other. Living with a roommate(s) is also new for many students.

Ways to support your student if they are going through the conduct system.

If your student has been charged with a Student Code violation there are several things parents can do to supportive of their student.

  • Talk with your student about the incident and what their perspective is. Discuss what the possible consequences could be as well as what they could have done differently during the incident. Realize that students may minimize the seriousness of an incident or their level of involvement. Sometimes it may take a little prodding to get the whole truth.
  • Encourage your student to ask questions and take advantage of available resources. For more serious cases, students can request a student advisor to help them prepare for a conduct hearing. Theirs is also information given to them in their initial conduct meeting as well as on this website.
  • If your student doesn’t understand something after reading through the conduct information and talking to their student advisor, encourage them to contact our office for more information.
  • Should you get involved with the case? There’s not clear cut advice about whether a parent should get involved in the matter. Some parents prefer to assist their student by getting involved and talking to staff in the Community Standards office while others see this as something the student should handle on their own. Some things to weigh when deciding whether you should contact our office to discuss the incident:
    • What are the possible consequences? Is the student facing eviction, suspension, or dismissal from the university?
    • Does your student have the skills to ask questions and make sure they understand the conduct process? Are they going to be able to clearly articulate their point of view in a conduct hearing?
    • Do you feel that your student is being treated unfairly or inconsistently in some way? Are there other concerns about the conduct process you'd like to discuss with someone?
  • If you decide to get directly involved with the case and want to contact our office, please understand that we can only speak about the specifics of the case if your student had completed a Release of Information Form and submitted it to our office. The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) is a federal law that protects the privacy of student education records. Without a signed release, by law, we can only answer general questions about the conduct process.