The Gift of Independence

The Gift of Independence

Like most people my age, it isn’t very common to go anywhere alone. Trips to the Fox Run Mall, going out to get food, or even girls headed to the bathroom. Being in college forces you to take more opportunities of alone time. No, I’m not saying you won’t have friends in college to do anything with, but I am saying you’ll definitely have alone time because your roommates will be off to class, or at work and your friends will be doing the same. In these moments when you have no homework, this is where students learn independence.

Like I said, it isn’t very common going out alone to do something so say, if you need something at the mall for a birthday party tomorrow and your only available time is now but no one is available to go too, you have a few options. One, you can keep searching for even the furthest acquaintance to go with you, no that making new friends is a bad thing but in all reality they too could be in class. And option two, look up the bus schedule and make a quick trip. Its pretty empowering being able to board a bus and take a trip to the mall by yourself.

College is a time to learn to rely on yourself rather than others. Take advantage of opportunities to build your independence by going to the dining hall alone or going to the library alone to study. These moments help fortify your independence in the future. In other words, this is a simple yet crucial life skill I didn’t start to really acquire until this year, my freshman year, when my other friends made comments like ‘You ate at the dining hall alone?!’ or ‘You went to the gym alone?!’ Remember, I’m not saying to do everything alone, by all means make new connections and go out with people. However, learning true independence of doing things on your own isn’t really first acquired until the beginning of college and I think its part of the college experience and should be taken advantage of a lot.