If your asking for my opinion on what type of dorm you should live in for your freshman year – I’ll tell you anything but a single. Summer before my freshman year I was initially placed in a single in Eaton House, at the time I had no idea where it was and I wanted roommates so I had asked to be changed. Housing ended up offering me either a single in Stoke or a built-up triple in Englehart. My thought process was this: ‘a single in Stoke would be better than a built-up triple because I’ll have my own space and it’ll be easier to make friends to go out because Stoke is the biggest hall on campus.’ Now, being that I’m half way through my freshman year and I know have the option to move rooms, I’m jumping on the chance.
Plenty of people were envious I received a single room and said I must love it, but in all honesty, as a freshman trying to make friends and meet people, there’s nothing worse. The beginning of my school year when I was trying to meet people, I was constantly popping my head into people rooms to ask “what’s up” or “who wants to get dinner” until someone would answer. For a while it almost felt a little like intruding on others or bothering them; I mean, when you wake up at 9 am your first weekend it’s going to be an awkward battle of wondering if you should knock on someones door that earlier and risk waking them up. For a while it was a weird situation, always trying to spend time in other people’s rooms to try and make friends.
Over time I made a base friend group and my single became more home-like than foreign to me. My tiny room wasn’t big enough to have friends over either, so I was also never in my room. In result my room became associated with a library or study hall- it was quite and it was only for doing homework. So like I said, living in a single might have been my own fault but my advice is that if you too have the opportunity to live in a single, ask to be moved somewhere else. The interaction with other people is important for adapting to college life and to put it bluntly, it makes you feel less alone in college. I think if I was a sophomore or junior, even, I wouldn’t mind at all living in a single, however your first year is vital. Your first semester of freshman year is all about meeting people and making new connections and if you’re living in a single room it will make the process ten times harder. Therefore, now that I have the opportunity to move into a different room and have roommates, it will hopefully change my college experience for the better.