Stalking is a Crime

A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Most stalking cases involve males stalking females, but males do stalk males, females do stalk females, and females do stalk men.

Some Things Stalkers Do

• Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups
  
• Follow you and show up wherever you are
  
• Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails
  
• Damage your home, car, or other property
  
• Monitor our phone calls, computer use, or social network account
  
• Hack into your social networking accounts (Facebook) or email
  
• Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go
  
• Drive by or hang out at your apartment/residence hall, outside your classroom or at your work
  
• Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends or pets
  
• Find out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring private investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting your friends, classmates, family, neighbors, or co-workers
  
• Other actions that control or frighten you.

Things You Can Do If You Are Being Stalked

Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two stalking situations are alike. There are no guarantees that what works for one person will work for another, yet you can take steps to increase your safety.

• If you are in IMMEDIATE DANGER, call 911
  
  
• Trust your INSTICTS. Don't downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
  
  
• Take THREATS seriously. Danger generally is higher when the stalker talks about harming themselves or someone else, or when a victim/survivor tries to leave or end a relationship.
  
  
• Contact SHARPP. SHARPP is the campus crisis center. We can assist in helping you devise a personal safety plan, provide you with information about local laws and University policies, and provide support and advocacy.
  
  
• Develop a SAFETY PLAN. Include things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a friend go places with you. Also, decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your apartment/residence hall, classroom, work, or somewhere else. Let your friends know how they can help you.
  
  
• Don't COMMUNICATE with the stalker or respond to their attempts to contact you. Communicating with them will only encourage them to continue.
  
  
• Tell FAMILY, FRIENDS, and OTHERS YOU TRUST about the stalking and seek their support.
  
  
• Keep EVIDENCE of the stalking. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, keep a log of the time, date, place and other details you may find of importance. Keep all e-mails, phone messages, letters, notes or Facebook messages. Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages and any injuries they may cause. Ask witnesses to also write down what they saw. Keeping this information is very helpful if you decide to get a protective order.
  
  
• Contact the POLICE. The University Police can assist you with understanding and taking action if the stalker has broken the law. Remember, every state has stalking laws, including New Hampshire. If you don't want to contact the Police alone, consider contacting SHARPP for assistance.
  
  Consider getting a COURT ORDER/PROTECTIVE ORDER that tells the stalker to stay away from you. If you aren't ready to get a court order/protective order, the Police can also send the stalker a "Stalking Letter" that informs them to stay away from you or else other action will be taken.
• Get CAMPUS SUPPORT. There are many services on campus that are here to offer you support. The UNH Counseling Center provides individualized counseling, Health Services provides education and counseling. If you need help finding support at UNH, contact SHARPP.

Feel like you can't escape your BF or
GF's texts? You aren't alone!

• Sexual Harassment and Rape Prevention Program (SHARPP)
  • Getting Help
  • Stalking Safety Planning
  • How to Help a Friend

• University Police Department
• Counseling Center
• Health Services
• Office of Conduct and Mediation
• UNH Information Technology

• Two Communities Respond to Stalking
• Stalking: Real Fear, Real Crime

• That's Not Cool YouTube Channel
• SCAN TV - Stalker

• Use of Technology in Stalking
• A Thin Line
• That's Not Cool
• Stalking Fact Sheet
• Download "Are You Being Stalked" Brochure
• Stalking Resources for Educators

• New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence: Stalking Information
• History of National Stalking Awareness Month
• Stalking Laws in the United States
• Bureau of Justice Special Report: Stalking Victimization in the United States