Anger is often perceived as a negative feeling. But what is it really?

• It's not okay to feel angry.
• Anger is a waste of time and energy.
• Good, nice people don't feel angry.
• We shouldn't feel angry when we do.
• We'll lose control and go crazy if we get angry.
• People will go away if we get angry at them.
• Other people should never feel angry toward us.
• If others get angry at us, we must have done something wrong.
• If other people are angry at us, we made them feel that way, and we're responsible for fixing their feelings.
• If we feel angry, someone else made us feel that way, and that person is responsible for fixing our feelings.
• If we feel angry at someone, the relationship is over, and that person has to go away.
• If we feel angry at someone, we should punish that person for making us feel angry.
• If we feel angry at someone, that person has to change what he or she is doing so that we don't feel angry anymore.
• If we feel angry, we have to hit someone or break something.
• If we feel angry, we have to shout or scream.
• If we feel angry at someone, it means we don't love that person anymore.
• If someone feels angry at us, it means that person doesn't love us anymore.
• Anger is a sinful emotion.
• It's okay to feel angry only when we can justify our feelings.